My views on feminism

The differences

Each of us human are different from each other, either physically or mentally. They say these differences make each of us unique. Then why aren’t each of us respected for our uniqueness. Rather, we classify and categorize humans based on these differences. Maybe we do this to make ourselves feel better. We try to feel better by suppressing/dominating other or making them feel inferior. How ironic and at the same time, how selfish is that?

 Feminism and its history:

And the burning issue among these differences in the world is the difference in gender.  “Feminism”, for this matter, is said to be “the ground of the equality the advocacy of women's rights on of the sexes” . It is said to .have begun at Seneca Falls Convention in 1848 where 300 men and women rallied for the purpose of equality for women. There are various other facts about various waves in this field which you can easily Google. So I won’t rewrite all those and rather give my opinion and understanding on the topic.

There is no actual history on how this discrimination started. But as I read one holy book, Mahabharata, I realized that, if the satyayug actually existed, then, female were dominated even back then. Draupadi (the wife of 5 pandavas) was firstly married to 5 pandavas without even asking for her opinion once and then, was put forward as a bet in the game of pasa without even her knowledge as if she was just a source of entertainment for her husbands by so called DHARMARAJ “yudisthira”. After he lost her in the game, she was dragged in front of her husbands. If men were to protect their wives, what exactly were 5 pandavas?

Opinion:

Over all

Men and women are very different from each other and that is where lies the beauty. But somehow, we humans have made this to be the basis for discrimination. If both these beings hadn’t had their own roles, why would they be created? If only men were necessary, why is there the existence of women? We both beings have equal role in each aspect of life and hence, we both are to be respected from the other and firstly, from ourselves. I am saying this because in many places I have seen women being hindrance for women, women belittling other women. And also there are some women who belittle themselves in front of men. So in my opinion, first a woman should learn how to respect herself.

Yes there are many things that a man can do and a woman cannot. But aren’t there so many things that a woman can do and a man cannot? Then why discriminate women for what they cannot do?

Talking about the physical difference, men and women are very different from each other. A woman has to go through a lot more physically compared to men. And after tolerating all that, we women challenge men in every field. We go through menstruation every month, the pain is unbearable to most women and still, we take care of each of the family members, we make a building “home”, we challenge men in our studies and career, and yet we are thought to be weaker than men? Has the meaning of weak changed now? Or was I unknown about the hidden meaning of the word “weak”?

To the men:

In my country, even in the city areas, people think that it is compulsory for women to learn how to do all the household work, otherwise, she can’t be good wife or a good daughter-in law. Meanwhile for men, they don’t need to learn those cause even if the wife is sick, the husband will just sit on the sofa that “he” bought, watch news channel on the TV “he” bought where there is news about domestic violence or rape and curse the man who did that. Hello, Mister? What are you doing? She takes care of each of your choices and needs the whole year and the one day when she is sick, you can’t even cook a meal for her? It doesn’t always need to be hitting wife or raping a girl to be cursed at. Learn to respect her efforts, take care of her. And for the sofa and TV you bought, if she wasn’t there supporting you and managing your finances, you wouldn’t have these now.

Let’s talk about independence, if you can’t even cook a meal for yourself, how do you think you are independent? Will you be able to get up so early and cook breakfast for yourself and the children, make lunch for them, make lunch for yourself, clean the house? Even if you say yes, let’s face it, will you be able to do it as neatly as she does?

Women-to-women:

From the many stories I have heard and my own experiences, I have realized that women themselves are the enemies of women. I have seen many women talking shit about their own friend or any other woman assuming that this will uplift their reputation. But what they don’t understand is that with the other women they are bringing themselves down. I have seen a mother-in-law treating her daughter-in-law like shit because they assume that it is a tradition without even thinking that their daughter will be somebody’s daughter-in-law too. They think that treating daughter-in-law like that is their responsibility. And the most hurting part is that a mother discriminating her own daughter. In our country, parents think that they shouldn’t invest on their daughters because she will be gone to somebody else’s house.

One day when I was watching my sister’s wedding video and me, being as curious as me, asked what the ritual they were doing was. And then was when I heard about the most heart breaking ritual performed during a wedding. The girl’s father would perform the “last rituals” of the girl. Now, she is dead to them.